Borderline personality disorder is a very complex mental health condition. BPD is characterized by intense and unstable emotions as well as high levels of insecurity and self-doubt which cause a pattern of having unstable relationships.
On a deeper level, BPD makes a person feel unstable in every aspect of their lives. From their moods, their way of thinking, their likes and dislikes, their behavior, how they view their relationships, and in more extreme cases, their overall identity. Many individuals with BPD have described the condition to the effect of having an exposed nerve ending, meaning that they’re easily triggered into suffering by even the smallest things, creating a cloud of confusion to their sense of self.
BPD is a mind and body condition, with symptoms that begin to manifest in the early teenage years. The symptoms of BPD typically include the following:
- An intense fear of abandonment, leading the individual to revert to extreme measures to avoid any kind of separation or rejection.
- A pattern or history of unstable yet intense relationships. For example, going from idealizing a partner to suddenly feeling that they don’t care or are cruel in a matter of moments.
- Rapid or extreme changes in self-identity and self-image. This would include changing goals and values or the individual viewing themself as “bad” or as if they don’t exist at all.
- Frequent periods of stress-related paranoia resulting in a loss of grip with reality that can last anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours.
- Impulsive or risky behavior, including heavy gambling, unsafe sex, reckless driving, spending sprees, binge drinking or eating, substance use, or even suddenly ending a relationship or leaving a job.
- Threatening self-harm or suicide, usually in response to the fear of separation or rejection.
- Intense mood swings that can last from a few hours to a few days, which often include grandiose feelings of happiness, irritability, anxiety, or even shame.
- Persistent feelings of emptiness or lack of meaning.
- Having anger management issues resulting in the frequent loss of temper or being inappropriately sarcastic or bitter, or having physical fights.